There has been an increase in the types of relationships between human beings. The name of any relationship is simply whatever you decide to call it, for it is whatever you choose it to be. Despite that, no matter what the chemical or emotional makeup of the mind is, one thing that seems to be a typical denominator among the majority of human beings is this “ quest for love” and its associated search for definitions of “ what exactly is love”. Search no further. Like is.
Blindly so many of us rush through life in search of that heart jolting crescendo of a symphony that can only possible become played by two in life, your ‘ soul mate’. Magically, and frequently time and time again, one finds that ‘ soul mate’. Oh the bliss, the joy, and the gratitude towards the fate/destiny that brought you both jointly. The pain of being apart adds to the elegance of being together. Then one day, something occurs. Perhaps it is as simple as a misunderstanding, or a failure to do the proper matter at the right time. Now within comes the creeping of the downsides to this magical world of enjoy. How could he/she put this before our love of each additional? How could he/she not put me first? Alas, from this instant forward, nothing but heartbreak is inevitable.
More than likely we will error through the years, blindly and desperately hunting to relive the same “ take my breath away” feelings which were experienced before.
What love is not is all of those heart palpitations that one experiences during that magical period of youth where one observe stars, is content to simply be in another’ s company, and is just existing in that magical world of bliss. All these feelings are simply the particular possible emotions experiences when one is in love.
A single absolutely has to learn to love yourself. Blame it on the movies, the particular songs, even the rain, but the reality of the matter is that the real fault belongs to the one variable that is difficult to understand, the love variable. Like is not sadness, anger, happiness, passion, and racing palpitations. These are most individual feelings and/or emotions. Like is. Love yourself. Then you have the freedom to love others. When you can enjoy yourself with “ Love Is” as your chief focus, then you will have the freedom and ability to love others in the same way. Love has no boundaries, no cures, no illnesses, no major depression, and no sporadic euphoric highs. It allows you to venture forth and discover the best that you can be in all that you will be. Once you have accomplished and mastered this, then you are free to find plus nurture that potential in others as you nurture it in your self.
Love will always be increasing, and will always be nurturing, as long as “ it is”. Wherever there is enjoy, there is the potential of the growth of love. Love allows one to become angry at oneself or others, to be sorry and apologetic, to be passionate, to be hurt to unfortunate, to be daring, to be free, to be whoever one wants to be. Onc again, love is. There are no conditions or boundaries set upon love. It is love for yourself, for the partner, for your family, for your friends, and for all humanity. There are no perquisites for love, for there is absolutely no beginning or end to love.
You were born into enjoy: not always into a loving family, yet always into love. As cool and as harsh as this world can be, this world is love. It is undeveloped love perhaps, but it is enjoy. Nurture love. It is yours for that taking and for the making. As soon as you took that first independent breathing of life you knew that Love Is.
As we grow older we become more educated, more experienced, and turn into more confined in our pattern of thoughts on love, as along with this education and learning and experience comes selective limitations in which to categorize and place the thoughts and emotion. Love is definitely becomes “ Love is not envious. Love is a feeling you never sensed before. Love is unconditional. Like is placing others before yourself. Love is etc etc etc . ” As mere infants we only knew one thing – Love is definitely. How simple. It was only even as we matured that love became more difficult. How ironic.
A lot of us have had our lives shattered because for whatever reason that confidence and that natural getting of “ Love Is” has been destroyed by our parents, siblings, friends, associates, or others. So , without much thought we ourselves start to attach emotions, rules, and situations to love. It soon becomes a number of predefined rules, examples of which are “ Love is that you show me that you regard me. Love is that you put myself before all others. Love is that your focus is to make me happy and the focus is to make you happy. Like is that you take me to this celebration and prove to the world that I was your Queen/King. ” And soon enough “ love” becomes hell.
Realistically who can possibly maintain all of these internal demands on ourselves much less with the imposition of them on other people? Yet, as soon as one of these needs are not met – whoosh the world explodes and we become absolute maniacs – blaming someone else for not residing up to our own definitions of enjoy and not understanding our self-inflicted aches of love.
The reason why can we not live plus love just for the reason of enjoy? For love simply is. If I decide to love you, then I have decided to love you as you are, for that is what love is. If I choose to be with you then it is because I love you and I also like you. If and when I temporarily or even permanently stop liking you, for whatever reason, it should not have any impact on my adoring you. After all, Love Is.